Why people date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be filled with evils, cause heartache, and other problems. In addition you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age difference, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, discreet dating for married.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek an extramarital affair. I suppose mostly though it is only the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anybody else? You would need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major grouping, very big truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a multitude of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be compassion is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply developed distantly, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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